Are you living with ghosts? Most people who’ve lived in older homes, or stayed in a vintage hotel or inn, have encountered a ghost or two.
For many of us, the ghost becomes a companion or — after a while — seems like a member of the family. The ghost leaves the family alone, and they leave him or her alone. Except for the occasional fleeting glimpse of the ghost, or something slightly odd reminding you that the ghost is there, living with a ghost becomes “normal.”
As long as the ghost isn’t territorial or malicious, or prankish (waking people up at night), you can probably share your home with him or her, comfortably.
Personally, I talk out loud to the ghosts. They’ll usually respond favorably to requests that are made in a normal tone of voice, talking to them as if they’re a friend who’s visiting your home and needs to know the “house rules.”
Before doing anything else, talk to your ghosts. You may have to remind them of the rules more than once. But, most spirits respond to polite (but firm) requests.
After awhile, you’ll probably forget that your home is haunted.
If that’s not enough – short-term help for hauntings
Some places are too haunted to live in. The Myrtles Plantation is one of them.
On a recent visit, the only way that I could document The Myrtles’ hauntings without interruptions, was to put my shoes side by side, pointing in opposite directions. (See photo at right)
That successfully paused the manifestations for a few minutes, so that I could jot a few notes about what was happening.
(I have no idea why such a silly folk remedy works, but it does.)
That can solve a short-term problem at an inn or hotel.
But, if you want to continue living in a house that’s “too haunted,” that may not be enough.
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As long as you’re not living in fear, space clearing may help. There are many ways to accomplish this.
Spiritual approaches to space clearing
If you are religious, any minister from your church or faith-based group can probably bless your home for you. A small donation ($35 or so) is routine for this kind of visit, but not usually required.
That’s one kind of “space clearing.”
For a New Age approach, you might try incense, a singing bowl, or other simple space clearing remedy.
In a pinch, you could vacuum clean (hoover) your entire home. Be sure to vacuum every corner, especially near the ceilings, whether they’re dusty or not.
According to space clearing experts, the noise plus the electrical energy seem to banish ghosts.
Likewise, any incense can work, as long as it gets into every corner in every haunted room.
If you’re afraid of ghosts
Generally, ghosts don’t hurt people. Poltergeists can cause mischief. They may throw things at you, or push you when you’re walking.
As far as I know, there is no real evidence of a ghost killing someone.
But, if you are truly frightened, don’t waste your time with space clearing and don’t stay in the house. Visit friends or family, or check in to a local hotel for a couple of days.
(After a few good nights’ sleep, the situation may look much better.)
If none of these remedies help, I recommend John Zaffis, author of “Shadows of the Dark.” He’s had years of experience with frightening hauntings, and he knows how to work with malicious spirits such as demons.
(I get nothing for referring people to John Zaffis, and he generally doesn’t charge anything to help people. He’s a friend, and I’d trust him if I had problems beyond my expertise.)
Or, if you’ve recently moved into a house that’s too haunted, you may have legal options. See my article, Buying or selling a haunted house – When to see a lawyer.
Please share your encounter with a ghost.
If you have lived in a haunted house, or if you’ve encountered a ghost at a restaurant or hotel, or on a ghost tour, I’d like to hear from you. Leave a comment, below.